Outer Banks-Inspired Readings For Your Wedding
Reverend Jay Bowman : Beach Wedding Readings
It’s really nice to hear something read at a wedding that totally resonates with the two lives being joined that day. A choice of one, two, or even three can be a nice addition to your wedding if carefully placed in the ceremony order. You can also have a family or friend share the reading if you like. Enjoy!
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1. Ancient Apache Wedding Blessing:
Now you will feel no rain for each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no loneliness for you for each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two persons but there is one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place to enter into the days of your togetherness.
And may your days be good and long upon this earth.
2. The Love Chapter in I Corinthians 13:
Love is patient and kind.
Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.
Love does not demand it’s own way.
Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.
It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful,
and endures through every circumstance…
There are three things that will endure forever,
faith, hope, and love,
and the greatest of these is love.
3. Friendship and Love:
It is often said that it is love that makes the world go round.
However, without doubt, it is friendship that keeps our spinning existence
on an even keel. True Friendship provides so many of the essentials
for a happy life…
It is the mortar which bonds us together in harmony,
and it is the calm, warm protection we sometimes need when the world outside seems cold and chaotic.
True Friendship nurtures our hopes, supports us in our disappointments,
and encourages us to grow to our best potential.
______________ and _____________ came together as friends.
Today they pledge to each other not only their love, but also the strength, warmth, and the fun of true friendship.
This day, these friends will marry with love.
And as love brings new meaning to life, so marriage brings new meaning to love.
4. Traditional Irish Blessing:
May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back,
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.
May God be with you and bless you;
May you see your children’s children.
May you be poor in misfortune,
Rich in blessings, and may you know nothing but happiness from this day forward.
May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the warm rays of sun fall upon your home
And may the hand of a friend always be near.
May green be the grass you walk on,
May blue be the skies above you,
May pure be the joys that surround you,
May true be the hearts that love you.
5. Love - by Roy Croft:
I love you, not only for what your are,
But for what I am when I am with you.
I love you, not only for what you have made of yourself,
but for what you are making of me.
I love you for the part of me that you bring out;
I love you for putting your hand into my heaped-up heart
and passing over all the foolish, weak things that you
can’t help dimly seeing there, and drawing out into the light
all the beautiful belongings that no one else had looked
quite far enough to find.
I love you because you are helping me to make of the lumber of my life
not a tavern, but a temple;
out of the works of my every day
not a reproach, but a song.
I love you because you have done more than any creed
could have done to make me good,
and more than any fate to make me happy.
You have done it….without a touch, without a word,
without a sign, and you have done it
by being yourself.
6. Excerpt from *The Gift from the Sea*
by Anne Morrow Lindbergh
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time,
in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility.
It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand.
We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships.
We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror it’s ebb.
We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration,
on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love,
is in growth, in fluidity, in freedom, in the sense that dancers are free,
barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.
The only real security is not in owning or possessing,
not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even.
Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what
was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation,
but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now.
Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for
what they are here and now, within their limits – islands,
surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and
continually visited and abandoned by the tides.
7. The Art of Marriage: by Wilfred A. Peterson.
The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing the things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude
in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife
to have wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
8. Blessing for a Marriage: by James Dillet Freeman
May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.
May you always need one another – not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not make the mountain less, but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you.
May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another
May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you” and take no notice of small faults.
If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery which is the awareness of one another’s presence –
no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.
9. Foundations of Marriage: by Regina Hill
Love, trust, and forgiveness are the foundations of marriage.
In marriage, many days will bring happiness, while other days may be sad.
But together, two hearts can overcome everything….In marriage, all of the moments won’t be exciting or romantic, and sometimes worries and anxiety will be overwhelming.
But together, two hearts that accept will find comfort together.
Recollections of past joys, pains, and shared feelings will be the glue that holds everything together during even the worst and most insecure moments.
Reaching out to each other as a friend, and becoming the confidant and companion that the other one needs, is the true magic and beauty of any two people together. It’s inspiring in each other a dream or a feeling, and having faith in each other and not giving up…. even when all the odds say to quit.
It’s allowing each other to be vulnerable, to be himself or herself,
even when the opinions or thoughts are not in total agreement or exactly what you would
like them to be. It’s getting involved and showing interest in each other
10. LOVE (Author Unknown)
Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad. It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weakness. Love is content with the present. It hopes for the future and it doesn’t brood over the past. It’s the day-in and day-out chronicle of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories, and working toward common goals. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you don’t have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough, so search for it, ask God for it, and share it!
11. MARRIAGE JOINS TWO PEOPLE IN THE CIRCLE OF ITS LOVE
by Edmund O’Neill
Marriage is a commitment to life, the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other relationship can equal. It is a physical and an emotional joining that is promised for a lifetime. Within the circle of it’s love, marriage encompasses all of life’s most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other’s best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. And there may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child. Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger, even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly. Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing a love that is deeper than life. When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage,
they create a spirit unique unto themselves which binds them closer than
any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential made in the hearts of two people who love each other and takes a lifetime to fulfill.
12. WRITING BY KAHILL GIBRAN
“You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, But let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone as they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
13. MY LOVE ~ Linda Lee Elrod ~
When I met you, I had no idea how much my life was about to be changed… but then, how could I have known? A love like ours happens once in a lifetime. You were a miracle to me, the one who was everything I had ever dreamed of, the one I thought existed only in my imagination. And when you came into my life, I realized that what I had always thought was happiness couldn’t compare to the joy loving you brought me. You are a part of everything I think and do and feel, and with you by my side, I believe that anything is possible. (this day) gives me a chance to thank you for the miracle of you… you are, and always will be, the love of my life.
14. THE MOST WONDERFUL OF ALL THINGS IN LIFE
~ By Sir Hugh Walpole ~
The most wonderful of all things in life is the discovery of another human being with whom one’s relationship has a growing depth, beauty and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of divine accident, and the most wonderful of all things in life.
15. SCOTTISH BLESSING:
May the blessing of light be on you, light without and light within. May the blessed sunlight shine on you like a great peat fire, so that stranger and friend may come and warm himself at it. And may light shine out of the two eyes of you, like a candle set in the window of a house, bidding the wanderer come in out of the storm. And may the blessing of the rain be on you, may it beat upon your Spirit and wash it fair and clean, and leave there a shining pool where the blue of Heaven shines, and sometimes a star. And may the blessing of the earth be on you, soft under your feet as you pass along the roads, soft under you as you lie out on it, tired at the end of day; and may it rest easy over you when, at last, you lie out under it. May it rest so lightly over you that your soul may be out from under it quickly; up and off and on its way to God. And now may the Lord bless you, and bless you kindly. Amen.
16. “I PROMISE”
by Dorothy Colgan
I promise to give you the best of myself and to ask of you no more than you can give.
I promise to respect you as your own person and to realize that your interests, desires and needs are no less important than my own.
I promise to share with you my time and my attention and to bring joy, strength and imagination to our relationship.
I promise to keep myself open to you, To let you see through the window of my world into my innermost fears and feelings, secrets and dreams.
I promise to grow along with you, to be willing to face changes in order to keep our relationship alive and exciting.
I promise to love you in good times and in bad, With all I have to give and all I feel inside in the only way I know how,
Completely and Forever.
17. “TRUE LOVE”
True love is a sacred flame
That burns eternally,
And none can dim its special glow
Or change its destiny.
True love speaks in tender tones
And hears with gentle ear,
True love gives with open heart
And true love conquers fear.
True love makes no harsh demands
It neither rules nor binds,
And true love holds with gentle hands
The hearts that it entwines.
18. KHAHIL GIBRAN WRITING ON LOVE
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise on your lips.
19. ANOTHER KHAHIL GIBRAN WRITING ON LOVE
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way
than this: where I does not exist, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.
20. NATIVE AMERICAN PRAYER BY SIOUX CHIEF *YELLOW HAWK*
Oh Great Spirit, whose voice I hear in the winds, and whose breath gives life to all the world – hear me – I come before you, one of your children. I am small and weak. I need your strength and wisdom. Let me walk in beauty and make my eyes ever behold the red and purple sunset. Make my hands respect the things you have made, my ears sharp to hear your voice. Make me wise, so that I may know the things you have taught my People, the lesson you have hidden in every leaf and rock. I seek strength not to be superior to my brothers, but to be able to fight my greatest enemy, myself. Make me ever ready to come to you, with clean hands and straight eyes, so when life fades as a fading sunset, my spirit may come to you without shame.
21. THE LITTLE THINGS
There are no cards to tell you
What I feel inside
It’s not the places that we go
Or the big things we’ve been through
The little things are the reason why
I love you like I do
The little things you do for me,
The little things you say,
Your tender smile, your teasing grin
You bring sunshine to my day.
The thoughtful little gifts you give,
The little things we share
Your gentle touch, your perfect kiss
Are the things that show you care.
Our road through life is bumpy,
And it isn’t always straight.
But I’m glad it’s you who’s by my side
With each twist and turn of fate
So remember all these little things,
As we live our day to day
Forever in our heart, this moment Will always stay!
22. EPHESIANS 5
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to Himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of His body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about christ and the church.
23. SONG OF SOLOMON 2
8 Listen! My lover! Look! Here he comes, leaping across the mountains, bounding over the hills.
9 My lover is like a gazelle or a young stag. Look! There he stands behind our wall, gazing through the windows, peering through the lattice.
10 My lover spoke and said to me, “Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me.
11 See! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone.
12 Flowers appear on the earth; the season of singing has come, the cooing of doves is heard in our land.
13 The fig tree forms its early fruit; the blossoming vines spread their fragrance. Arise, come, my darling; my beautiful one, come with me.”
14 My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely.
16 My lover is mine and I am his; he browses among the lilies.
24. ECCLESIASTES 4
Two people can accomplish more than twice as much as one; they get a better return for their labor. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But people who are alone when they fall are in real trouble. And on a cold night, two under the same blanket can gain warmth from each other. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.
25. MATTHEW 7
21 “Not everyone who says to me, `Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 24 “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.” 28 When Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were amazed at his teaching, 29 because he taught as one who had authority, and not as their teachers of the law.
26. What is Love? - AUTHOR UNKNOWN
Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favorite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams. Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places. And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all – one known only by those who love.
27. Why Marriage? By Mari Nichols-Hining
Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person, with all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body…. Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me, who won’t hold them against me, who loves me when I’m unlikable, who sees the small child in me, and who looks for the divine potential of me…. Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night with someone who thanks God for me, with someone I feel blessed to hold…. Because marriage means opportunity to grow in love in friendship…. Because marriage is a discipline to be added to a list of achievements…. Because marriages do not fail, people fail when they enter into marriage expecting another to make them whole…. Because, knowing this, I promise myself to take full responsibility for my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness I create me, I take half of the responsibility for my marriage. Together we create our marriage…. Because with this understanding the possibilities are limitless.
28. CHAPTER ONE OF ONE THOUSAND by O.J. Preston
For two people this dawn brought on a magical day. Now husband and wife they head on their way, as a boat setting sail may their journey begin, with calmest of waters, most helpful of wind, and if they should stumble upon turbulent sea. May it pass them unharming – leaving them be. For here two people whom love has well bitten. Here opens their book which has yet to be written, as the first page unfolds and their life inks it’s path, may it write a true story where forever love lasts. Let their journey be happy till death do they part Of one thousand chapter, may this be the start.
29. ON LOVE by Thomas A. Kempis
Love is a mighty power, a great and complete good. Love alone lightens every burden, and makes rough places smooth. It bears every hardship as though it were nothing, and renders all bitterness sweet and acceptable. Nothing is sweeter than love nothing stronger, nothing higher, nothing wider, nothing more pleasant, nothing fuller or better in heaven or earth; for love is born of God. Love flies, runs and leaps for joy. It is free and unrestrained. Love knows no limits, but ardently transcends all bounds. Love feels no burden, takes no account of toil, attempts things beyond its strength. Love sees nothing as impossible, for it feels able to achieve all things. It is strange and effective, while those who lack love faint and fail. Love is not fickle and sentimental, nor is it intent on vanities. Like a living flame and a burning torch, it surges upward and surely surmounts every obstacle.
30. ALWAYS (author unknown)
This isn’t sometime, this is always. This isn’t maybe This is always. The real beginning of forever. This isn’t just midsummer madness, a passing glow, a moment’s gladness, this is love. I knew it on the night we met, you tied a string around my heart, so how could I forget you? With every kiss I know that this is Always.
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